And really, I don't think it's realistic to love everyone all the time (see post on my solution to this problem).
But, all that said, I believe in community.
I believe is community is a powerful thing. The kind of thing that can move mountains.
I've always had strong communities where ever I've been. Through school, church, sports, music, activities, family, military, travel, work, journalism, blogging.
Some of them were communities I was born into, or forged through shared experiences like college, but most, I've built myself. Slowly and steadily.
The more I move around, travel, age, the more I realize how lucky I've been to have all that.
I went home over the summer for my sister's baby shower and to see my grandparents. One of my grandfathers passed away in April and it was killing me to be so far away from loved ones when all of that was happening.
While I was visiting my grandmother in New York, she took dad and me to a graduation at a community school for children with cerebral palsy.
My grandmother had helped with their garden and so had my grandfather.
They didn't know those children, and still they helped make something beautiful for them.
Parents and families went wild with applause throughout the ceremony. I found myself tearing up as I watched the staff and the families celebrate what these kids had accomplished and that my grandparents had been some small part of it.
That was community.
People coming together for a common cause, a common goal, to serve, to help, to support, to encourage.
Now I'm in my second year of living in a new place. Where I don't have family, other than M. Where I don't have 10-15 years of life spent in this town. Where people don't know my past, my skills, my love of community.
I'm rebuilding my community. In a new town, with new friends, new job, new connections, new culture.
I won't lie, it can be tough. But, i've also seen what community can do. Rally after tragedy, offer support in tough times, come together to build something wonderful.
There will always be days when I don't love my neighbor, but I hope I never stop believing in community.
How do you build community?